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A fetish is a weird thing if you think about it….
But that doesn’t mean you should suppress yours and lock it away in the closet…
As a matter of fact, it can actually be used as a tool to rev up hormone production.
And you should use this tool, as long as your particular thing isn’t destructive to
yourself or others…
Because a fetish is just a mental connection you’ve made with something unusual.
Behavioral scientists call this imprinting.
So say the first set of breasts you really noticed were residing on your 7th grade math teacher…
And she wore tight sweaters, glasses and her hair up in a bun.
So this particular look became linked with those breasts you were so attracted to as a post pubescent boy.
And every time you see this look, it lights you up.
It’s these early connections made right around puberty that stay with you for your entire life.
It’s a human thing, and something you should never be ashamed of.
As a matter of fact, you should embrace it….
And you should also take the time to find out what your partners thing is…
Because you can work this angle together to keep the hormonal fires burning hot.
Here’s a hint for you….
Women often have exhibitionist fantasies, so they like to be looked at and admired…
Men on the other hand are voyeurs, so they like to do the looking.
A study done in Sweden found that couples who scratched this itched were much more active in the bedroom.
And remember, sexually active people who go at it at least twice a week, look 7 years younger, on average, then people who have sex less frequently
But you need to make a conscious decision to get it going…
Because this dance happens naturally in young people who are actively shopping their reproductive potential….
But seasoned couples need to work to keep these things alive. And just as important, always have a plan to act on them sometime in the future.
If the two of you have been in a rut in the bedroom, this will break you out quickly….
It will also make that elusive female orgasm we discussed a while back much easier to find.
Exhibitionistic and Voyeuristic Behavior in a Swedish National Population Survey (Archives of Sexual Behavior) 2006 – 35:427.